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This Week At The Granny Group
A Little Off… But Still Fabulous!!
As Mom’s abilities changed, so did some of her clothing choices. There were days when the outfits she put together didn’t quite match, weren’t appropriate for the weather, or simply weren’t what she would have chosen years earlier. If we were staying home, we often let those choices be. They weren’t hurting anyone, and preserving her independence and confidence mattered more than perfect coordination.
Looking back on our journey we didn’t consider that our mother’s “new clothing choices” were something that should have rang an alarm bell. There were some texts exchanged among the siblings as she entered her “yoga pant in your 80’s” phase because everyone was doing it and if there is one thing she always knew about it was fashion. We could have lived with the yoga pants because she was tiny and they looked great on her legs(she always had great legs) it was more about the length of her shirts. It seemed that she had her mind set on “almost midriff baring” to complement the yoga pants. My sister and I would text each other with “Moms pants don’t leave much to the imagination.” Or “Mom is currently wearing a crop top with the yoga pants” and sometimes words were not enough so we just sent pictures of that day’s questionable clothing choice.
However, if we were going out in public, we always made sure she was dressed in a way that reflected the woman she had always been. We would gently help her choose an outfit or make small adjustments before leaving the house—not because we were embarrassed by her, but because we knew she would have been embarrassed if she had realized it herself.
This wasn’t about taking away her independence. It was about protecting her dignity. We respected the pride she had always taken in her appearance, and we wanted the world to continue seeing the graceful, well-put-together woman she had worked so hard to be throughout her life. Sometimes caregiving means knowing when to let the little things go, and other times it means quietly stepping in to preserve the dignity your loved one can no longer protect on their own.
Throughout the week, we’ll discuss:
- Signs Your Loved One May Need More Help
- What are ADLs and IADLs
- How ADLs and IADLs May Change Over Time
This Week’s Resources
- “Choosing Your Battles” Reflection Worksheet
- Changes I’ve Noticed Journal
- ADL & IADL Independence Assessment
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